Recently, I’ve been thinking about dating, but there are very few members of the opposite sex around me. What should I do? Among the brothers I know, 99% of the relationship problems stem from having too few choices. So, if you can solve the problem of having few opposite-sex people around you, you can 100% solve the problem of being single!
1. Your circle
Your circle of friends stems from your interests and hobbies. What are the hobbies of many boys? If it’s playing games, reading novels or browsing Douyin, what do they belong to? Solo sports. What is solo sports? All of these are things that need to be done by you alone, not by other friends.
You don’t need to get along with the opposite sex either. You can do all these things. So, if you want to change your circle of friends, you first need to change your behavioral patterns and lifestyle. You should turn single-player games into online games and do things that require many people to complete together, such as murder mystery games. One person can’t play murder mystery games. If you play murder mystery games every day, you have to force yourself to be with many people. For example, going out to sing or taking part in some social activities that you can’t complete alone. You need to cultivate some…
Some hobbies and interests that everyone can make progress together.
For example, if you are going skiing, you can go alone. But in order to improve your skiing skills, you surely wouldn’t join more groups or invite these friends to progress together, would you? So, if you want to change the situation where you have no opposite-sex friends around you, the first thing you need to do is to change your single-person mode.
2. Develop the opposite sex into good friends rather than girlfriends
Many men have only two standards for girls: either they like them or they don’t. If you like someone, you want to be your girlfriend; if you don’t, you just say nothing. So many times, before you have enough ability to get along with a girl, you may not have been able to win over the girl you like, which leads to her not wanting to talk to you and not paying attention to the girl you don’t like. As a result, you don’t have a single opposite-sex friend. So, you need to change this way of thinking and learn to be friends with different girls.
3. Make friends of all kinds of the opposite sex
True opposite-sex friends all have one characteristic: they will get along with the women they like as if they were friends. Can you do it? Can you tolerate the girl you like dating another man? Many men can’t do it. When they see the girl they like dating another man, they will cut off contact. But in fact, such a girl still has her best friends and social circle. When you become her friend, she will introduce other girls to you.
The same goes for those girls you don’t like. So, you are narrowing your path. The first girl has few hobbies, no social circle and even plays single-player games. The second girl you met blocked out all possibilities. If you want to increase your opposite-sex friends, you first need to solve these two problems.